The Worst Thing to do When You are Emotional
One thing most people have been told to do from a young age is to suck it up and move. In other words, don’t show your emotions, keep them to yourself by suppressing them.
However, most people think that suppressing your emotions is a sign of strength – that you can handle them effectively. They are not aware that suppressing your emotions is actually the worst thing to do!
Suppressing your emotions is not the same as being emotionally resilient. Suppressing your emotions is just acting as if they were not there – you ignore them, you bury them somewhere deep in the recess of your mind, and just continue to act “as if” nothing really happened. While sometimes you may have the impression that it’s working temporarily, in reality, emotions don’t just simply disappear. They are still there at the back of your mind, active and consuming your most precious resources of time, space, and energy. Slowly but surely, they will drain you until they are resolved, no doubt about that!
Not only that, but when someone suppresses their emotions, it sends a threat signal to those around him/her, making others feel uncomfortable, and wary and it creates an internal feeling of tension and dis-ease.
We are “built” to experience a range of emotions.
Some emotions feel pleasureful and we generally strive to experience more of those… Others feel pain and we do everything we can to avoid those – by suppressing them when they arise.
Would you agree that when you went to school you’ve learned many topics, some of which, you probably never used after leaving school? But you learned them anyway because it was part of the curriculum.
But I’m most certain that you never learned how to “effectively manage” your emotions at school. You’ve never learned emotional intelligence & resilience.
Your ability to accurately perceive your emotions, understand the meaning behind them, manage them and use them to facilitate thinking is NOT something you’ve ever learned.
That seems odd really given that every human being – without exception – experiences a range of emotions every day, multiple times a day…
The only thing someone told you is when things are painful, suck it up and don’t show anything in public because “that’s not appropriate”…
Unfortunately, that’s not the best solution. Emotions exist for a reason, they indicate the integration of brain/body, mind, and social information sources. They serve as great snapshots of our current state or frame of mind. They help us become conscious of how we are creating meaning in our lives from moment to moment.
They convey important information and if we start changing our perception of emotions by seeing them as an integration process between (1) our mental maps that include memories, interpretations, physiological reactions, and behavioural tendencies, (2) the importance of connecting with others in our social field, then it becomes evident to recognise the value of the information and emotion provides. And once we do, we suddenly become more curious about them.
Emotions are an important feedback mechanism, a guiding “friend”.
So, next time you experience a strong emotion, whether good or bad, pleasureful or painful, don’t just bury it in the black box at the back of your mind.
Instead, feel it, observe it, and ask yourself:
- What kind of information this emotion is giving me?
- What is the message for me embedded in that emotion?
- How can I use this information to facilitate new thinking?
- How can I use that information to move forward in life?
In Nutshell:
The worse thing to do when you are emotional is suppressed your emotions. Emotions are loaded with information and suppressing them robs you of important guiding messages. Next time you experience a strong emotion, whether good or bad, don’t just bury it in the black box at the back of your mind, instead, feel it, observe it, and be curious about it. Find out what message is there for you that will help you grow and move forward in life.
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